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October 9, 2021: A Day I Will Never Forget
by Tim Scifres In my life there have been few days that truly stick out and have become unforgettable. Days like graduations…some birthdays (the surprise party my parents gave me on my 16th birthday)…my wedding day…the birth of my girls (stands at the top of my list along with my wedding day)…losing a loved one…funerals.…
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Grief is Like a Spider Web
by Tim Scifres Throughout this journey of over four years now, grief has been described in some powerful ways to me. One of the most powerful was realizing grief is like a rogue wave in the middle of the ocean in the middle of the night. I have felt like that was a very appropriate…
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I Miss my Friend
Loss and grief are heavy weights to carry. Through these past four years there have been many times when the heaviness is real and oppressive. Thankfully, as these years have passed, there have been more times where the heaviness is not so fresh and overwhelming. However, this time of year is a time where the…
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I am Already Thinking of Him
by Tim Scifres Christmas of 2022 was a special time for me and my family. We were able to spend it with my parents and family in Oklahoma. My family has been very supportive of Jess, the girls, and myself. They have been there for us in every way they could. My mom grew up…
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Something to Look Forward To
by Tim Scifres Loss changes people. I mean loss changes people to their core. I have always used TV as something to help me decompress at the end of a day or a week. Sports have been something that I look forward to watching every day. When I was in college and had a morning…
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Be a Show-up Person
by Tim Scifres I recently found these thoughts I had written down around the beginning of 2022 a few months after Charles was born sleeping. I can honestly say my thoughts have not changed much in the last almost three years. I hope these thoughts encourage us all to show up for those who have…
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Set-up, Don’t Sabotage Tomorrow
by Tim Scifres Use today to set-up tomorrow instead of sabotaging tomorrow. In 1983 the North Carolina State University Wolfpack men’s basketball team who found themselves in a desperate situation as they began the ACC Conference Tournament. Their record of 17-10 was highly unlikely to make the NCAA Tournament, unless they won the conference tournament.…
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Saying Goodbye
by Tim Scifres It gets harder to say goodbye after saying the hardest goodbye. One of the seemingly unlimited things that has been hard to wrap my mind around is the fact that my first hello to Charles was the same time as my last goodbye. I am grateful for the time Jess and I…
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Move the Shadows Back
by Tim Scifres Grief is ever present in the lives of those dealing with great loss in their lives. I speak from experience as the grief of losing Charles is like a monster hiding in the shadows who is always lurking, looking for a moment of vulnerability to overtake me. I never know when this…
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Stages of Grief?
I heard of the “5 Stages of Grief” growing up, so naturally, those stages came to my mind after Charles’ death. I had been taught that the stages of grief are a linear and logical path to healing, a path to returning to “normal”. It did not take long for me to learn grief is…
Every Step with Grief 